Stigma and Cultural Norms

ft. Arjun

Arjun

Let's be real—talking about sex and sexual health isn't easy for everyone. For a lot of international students, it's something we've been taught not to discuss at all. Maybe you grew up in a culture where these topics were considered private, even shameful. So you stay quiet, even when you're curious or confused. I know that feeling—I've been there too.

Coming to Australia can feel like a bit of a shock. People seem more open here—about relationships, dating, sex. And while that might seem refreshing, it can also be uncomfortable when you've spent your whole life avoiding these conversations. You might find yourself thinking, “Is it just me who doesn't know how to talk about this?”

It's not just you.

Many of us carry the weight of silence, even in a new environment. We're afraid of saying the wrong thing, asking the wrong question, or being judged. Sometimes, even with close friends, there's a line we don't feel like we can cross. And that silence? It can make you feel isolated, confused, or like everyone else has it figured out—when most of us are just trying to make sense of it all, too.

The truth is, staying silent doesn't protect us—it just leaves us with unanswered questions. And taking care of your sexual health shouldn't come with shame.

The good news is, there are safe and supportive places to talk. Student groups like the Women's Collective, Queer Collective, and campus health services are here to help. No judgement, no awkwardness—just people who understand and want you to feel safe and informed. You don't have to talk about everything all at once. You don't have to go into detail if you're not ready. But when you're ready to ask, share, or just listen—you deserve a space where that's possible.

You're not alone in this.